On National “Get Over It” Day, you might be tempted to push yourself to get over your grief.
Don’t do that.
Societal expectations pressure us to return to normal ASAP, but it’s not realistic or helpful. Grief is, unfortunately, a journey with no finish line. You don’t get to “end” grief.
Does the death of a loved one continue to impact you for the rest of your life? Yes.
Does it help for you to pretend you’re “better,” ignoring your emotions and refusing further help and support? No.
Are there ways to make life livable again, despite continuing to feel the pain and loss? Yes.
If you’re grieving a loss and someone tells you (or even implies) that you should get over it, assume it’s meant with good intentions (they don’t want to see you suffering). Then take that sentiment and drop it in the trash. It’s not a healthy mindset.
Continue to grieve. Learn to live beside your loss.