Perhaps you have experienced this kind of #love and #grace with someone.
You can be exactly who you are.
You do not need to #hide your #thoughts or #feelings;
you do not need to #perform;
you do not need to do anything to be loved.
Someone knows the #real you, and loves you anyway.
When you have DONE something wrong, you can easily change that. You can acknowledge your error, accept that it happened, and develop strategies that help you to not do the bad deed again.
However, with shame it's not possible to change at all - because the bad is YOURSELF.
With #grace alone, we are safe from #condemnation, but we cannot experience true #intimacy.
When the one who offers grace also offers #truth (truth about who we are, truth about who he or she is, and truth about the world around us), and we respond with our true self, the real intimacy is possible.
Real intimacy always comes in the company of truth!
Shame is possible to change by changing self-perception.
I agree - though that's not what meant.
It is not possible to change, when the whole world refuses to selfreflect their own misconceptions about you and refuse to work on changing their distorted perception of and idea about you.
#Relationship (other than the one with oneself) can't be done by only one alone, it always needs an opposite being.
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