Wait, this just dawned on me. It's so obvious it's stupid.
It makes sense that men's attraction is both more visual and that they are the one's who more often take the initiative and do the approaching. These are inextricably linked.
Whoever makes the first move has to be focused on what they see because before the first move, there's nothing else to go on.
Unfortunately for many, it seems to stop there.
In need of serious advice. How do you get over the memory of an ex?
It's been exactly 2 decades since our relationship. Today's his birthday.
We have no way of contacting each other. He might not even be alive anymore. Usually he appears in my dreams and thoughts when I least expect it. I don't have any photos of him, just memories.
It feels like I'm being haunted.
Serious advice will be sincerely appreciated. Snark & insults will be ignored or blocked.
I must admit I'm surprised. I came across some #statistics outlining there are more gay #men than #women in the #UK.
Almost twice as many in fact, and even adding in #bisexuality it still tilts that way.
Why am I surprised? Well it's simply because it doesn't match my experience.
Over my six decades, I've met dozens of women who were in same-sex #relationships but only four or five men.
I can think of many possible reasons for the discrepancy, but it still feels wrong.
It's very hard to discount your own #experience as atypical. We're hardwired to think we're a representative sample 
People find relationship with their dog more satisfying than with best friend, study shows
"The study suggests owners rate their relationship with their dogs as being as satisfying or more satisfying than their closest human relationships. Owners also rated their dogs higher than their best friends and closest relatives for areas including affection, reliability and support....They reported greater relationship satisfaction with their dogs than with their closest kin or best friend."
“Dogs offer a highly positive relationship with minimal conflict, strong social support, and the unique opportunity to have full control over another living being’s life."
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https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/apr/22/owners-closeness-to-dogs-study
#dogs #pets #relationships #PowerAsymmetry #control #interaction #companionship #friendships #WesternCountries #BestFriend
I thought I might have to mace a dude in the parking lot a few minutes ago.
My girlfriend and I were about to get in our car (after buying a bunch of ice cream for my cramps), and I overheard some guy talk-yelling. I scanned around and saw him across the lot, yelling into the driver's side of a small SUV. I watched for a few seconds, then decided to go make sure he wasn't cornering some woman.
So my girlfriend and I walk over and stand a little ways from his vehicle, watching him heatedly accuse what was probably his girlfriend of cheating. He glanced at us a couple times, and I kept waiting for him to turn his anger my direction, but he dropped the keys in the car and stormed off.
We walked over and checked on the woman, who smiled in that very 
sort of way, and told us she was okay—that "he's overdramatic" and they've "been through a lot together", then changed the subject by asking if we were from Seattle. She thanked us for checking in a couple more times and started walking in the guy's direction.
This was obviously an abusive relationship and she was used to deflecting inquiries about it.
I really wish I could have actually done something other than make sure he didn't escalate, but I know as soon as we left he was probably right back at her.
I hope she gets out of there.
If you are in a long-term relationship when you start to transition, you are not transitioning alone. Your partner is, too.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/ten-reasons-late-in-life-transgender-females-make-great-partners-7ce034b9fea2?sk=70e5d863cce241e7e54f2c1fa3d0eda3
Dating someone with depression? It's okay to need balance.
You can:
Hold space for their struggles without taking them on as your own
Set kind but firm boundaries (this is love, too)
Protect your own mental health - it's not selfish
Find the line between support and self-preservation
Full guide for navigating this with care: bit.ly/4iqgmNE
My ex (technically still wife) and I have both commented on some of the commonalities of our partners for the last few years: liberal, in helping-type professions, and with a ridiculous amount more substance use experience and knowledge.
It has occurred to me that this is just baseline and not so interesting, really:
No way would we have dated anyone conservative at this point in our lives
We both have connections to helping professions
We were Mormon for the ~20 years of our marriage, so yeah, everyone has more substance use experience and knowledge than we do.
Love is not enough to run a relationship. Relationships require more, such as trust, respect and friendship. Love won't solve our practical problems for us or resolve our fundamental differences either, nor will it align our values.
My husband covered up the fact that he retired. How can I reboot open communication? https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2025/apr/18/my-husband-covered-up-the-fact-that-he-retired-how-can-i-reboot-open-communication #Australianlifestyle #Relationships #Lifeandstyle #Family
Interesting this story from CNN. A lady spends whole year dating only far-right men from the manosphere.
”They are some of the most insecure people.
They don’t know who they are and lack the ways to figure it out.”
”One guy took me to a political meeting. It was supposed to be a political meeting, but almost exclusively they spent the time talking about relationship problems.”
https://youtube.com/watch?v=92iotrec96g
#farright #manosphere #journalism #relationships
Sara Kuburic.
Reminder importanti.
Se ti fa sentire immeritevole, se ti svaluta, se non celebra le tue peculiarità, se ti umilia, se ti fa dubitare di te stessə non è amore, è monnezza.
I love Jimmy, even though he's a Christian. 
So pure and healthy. 
Less than 72 hours after asking for my hand in marriage, he broke things off with me. One fight, our first and only, and that was that. He soon moved on to the best friend he swore I never needed to worry about.
https://buff.ly/KQ2aOqx
Reconcilable Differences Connecting in a Disconnected World by Dawna Markova, 2017
A revolutionary way to move beyond biases and blind spots to build deeper rapport between friends, lovers, relatives, and colleagues, from the expert author team behind Collaborative Intelligence.
@bookstodon
#books
#nonfiction
#SelfHelp
#relationships
#communication
In my defense, when she said she was a Cancer, I thought she was talking about her Zodiac sign 
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