Being polite is a privilege.
Some people have never even heard of 'nonviolent communication', 'I-messaging', 'listen-looping', 'conflict resolution', 'transformative justice', etc.
These people often don't not have loads of progressive friends, stable jobs, caring parents, etc.
Please bear that in mind when someone who has it worse than you says something mean or whatever, because they might just be expressing themselves the best way they can. Work with the emotion, not the words.
@douginamug if someone is being mean to you repeatedly, they're harassing you. Sometimes that can be out of ignorance. If so, hopefully they'll find someone with patience, understanding and kindness to help them out. That *does not have to be you*. Don't exhaust yourself.
@FlorentBecker Right again. My original comment was based on some recent experiences in a physical space.
Asking people to 'grow a thick skin' (i.e. 'put up with it') is bad. [ignoring the issue]
Excluding people the first time they do something 'wrong' without an opportunity to understand/change is also bad. [avoiding the issue]
Actually _transforming_ seems to be really hard.
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