Moving instance! 

Okay that did not take very long at all! I am slowwwly shifting to @certifiedperson@weirder.earth so come find me there pals!

I don't intend to delete this instance's acct and still wanna at some stage spam the stuff stored in my faves so no urgency!

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Moving! 

Okay that did not take very long at all! I am slowwwly shifting to @certifiedperson@weirder.earth so come find me there pals!

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Heads up to followers: 

It has just realised that weirder.earth looks like an excellent instance for it, so it has sent an invite and (assuming that's approved, ofc!) will start shuffling over there soon.

This may mean in the next month or two it may go through all its Faves it has been meaning to boost, so apologies if it spams!

Will give a heads up when that starts and ends so you can mute if you want!

Currently it intends to keep this account still.

Aromantic people can still be in "romantic" relationships or the type of relationships that some people would see as romantic. They can even do romantic things.

In the same way that many asexual people still have and even enjoy sex

Queerplatonic relationships are great, but those aren't the only types of relationships aromantic people can have, and a lot of times I see that implied

hot take, 'identity' as the principle way of thinking about trans & non-binary people is a liberal trap, a desperate recapitulation of the trans & nonbinary threat to the 'innate' categoric mandate of gender.

ANY intellectually-honest account of gender must acknowledge that it is constantly being forced to grab gender by a different hand-hold, that gender shakes off its analyst like a bull shakes off its rider. if you start by talking about reproductive capacity, gestation & insemination, you are forced by infertility and intersexing and castration and celibacy and non-reproductive sexuality to begin talking instead about clothes, or division of labor, or burial rites. every 'defining' aspect of gender explodes upon too-careful observation.

I refuse to demonstrate that my womanhood is 'no threat' to the integrity of womanhood as a category by appealing to a secret truth. I am a woman Because the category of womanhood lacks integrity. you cannot threaten what never lived & cannot die.

mental illness / anger issues, kinda dilemma 

I don't like prioritising my own wellbeing and safety over other people's like this but if I don't then I'm not prioritising my own wellbeing and safety and if I don't do that, pretty soon I'm not ever going to be able to provide support for others.

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mental illness / anger issues, kinda dilemma 

People are doing the best they can with what they've got, and sometimes what they've got is anger issues and a touch of paranoia and very little ability or willingness to manage those things and while I want to be supportive of people and help them be better,it's goddamn scary and if I'm left crying and shaking in my own goddamn home, shit, I got my own safety to consider, you know? Own oxygen mask and all that.

screenreader accessibility question 

I just had a thought: I'll often add multiple vowels to a word to communicate a specific tone or way of speaking. (eg, "I thiiiink", or "it miiight be", to draw the word out and emphasize that I'm not entirely certain). Does anyone know if this is a pain in the butt for screenreaders & their users?

personal, our boarder 

Mum ended up talking with me about the boarder and his behaviour and apparently, without me ever mentioning I'm getting super uncomfy and kind of anxious, she's not far off kicking him out anyway.

Which I will feel kind of bad about but also will be a goddamn relief if she does.

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This is Das, a Chilean border collie. With her two daughters, Olivia and Summer, she is spreading native seeds in an area devastated by wildfires. They really love running through the woods with their special seed-spreading backpacks, says their trainer Francisca Torres.

personal, our boarder's anger (-) 

And he frequently interrupts me studying to angrily tell me something and then storm off to boot, and my autistic and currently behind ass does NOT like that at all.

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personal, our boarder's anger (-) 

I'm like, thisclose to telling Mum I'm getting seriously uncomfortable with him, and I don't like doing that because 1) it's actually really fucking hard to find boarders who reliably pay their board and he's been here doin that for two years, 2) He's otherwise tolerable, he just needs an occupation, 3) He's fully Deaf, so might make it harder for him to find somewhere to live, and 4) I'll be moved out within like 3 months anyway. Ugh. Idk.

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personal, our boarder's anger (-) 

He and just now he basically screamed at me when he told me that someone fucked with his computer before storming off. My bro, also techie, recently moved in and the boarder periodically accuses him of shit like messing with his computer or stealing his SIM card. Mum's getting kind of sick of the increasing number of holes in his bedroom wall.

Thing is, he'd be perfectly fine if he had some occupation, or went back to study, or even just did another short course

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personal, our boarder's anger anger (-) 

I am actually getting really anxious with one of the boarders in the house. He used to be all good but he stopped studying a few months ago and now he's got wayy too much free time he spends fucking around with his computer. Anytime something goes wrong he immediately tells me it's been hacked, and he gets suuuper fucking upset (and then realises later he was wrong)

ever think about how many """weird""" behaviors are demonized by suggesting they're inherently sexual in nature

just bitching, some caps, - 

Like when I say paranoid, I mean he constantly thinks his computer has been hacked or was infected by a virus, like, a recent one was that someone had gained control of his computer and he knew because folders had been shuffled around.

Or, y'know, his ADHD ass lost his sim card, was visibly upset at my answer of "I don't know" when he asked where it was, and a week later I found out he'd accused my bro of stealing it. My bro doesn't give a shit about his sim card???

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just bitching, some caps, - 

Holy crap I am gettin so sick of our boarder and I absolutely do not have the capacity to deal with his paranoia and I'm gonna be so full on for a few weeks I just do not need this bullcrap

He came out of his room just to tell me that his bro was out of prison now, so that if MY bro decided to mess with his computer, HIS bro would *he punched his other hand REALLY hard*, and then he walked off.

My bro has no goddamn reason to do shit to the boarder's computer????

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