I just suck at communicating. I lose words a lot, and, like, stuff.
Written? I'm a little better, but only because I usually have more time to formulate my response.
And suddenly I realize my problem. Thank you!
Jessica Rewatches Star Trek Into Darkness (Way More Alcohol Involved) Show more
"My name is KHAN"
dramatic music plays
Kirk and Spock look baffled
depression rambling, the lies my mean brain is telling me today but they aren't feeling like lies Show more
no one wants to come to my meetups, no one gives a shit about getting the group active
no one finds me desirable
i'll always be misgendered and invisible
@Helmic This reminds me of the whole "clout" thing that seems to worm its way into stuff.
Reeeaaally gotta be careful with that, yeah!
@albijuli Recognizing that there's other people who do the work to make a community function who don't have a formal title and powers is important in keeping egos in perspective, I think. Bad mods may assume a community belongs to then, not recognize the role others play when they mediate conflicts without any mod powers or post the content that justifies the community's existence.
It's a small part of a larger effort to make a community better.
>> the admin was already fed up with you before you even made an account.
in my defense "fed up" is my default state 😆
But seriously, I look over the rules from time to time and see if they need softening up. That's on my todo list for the weekend, actually.
My approach... I'm getting better. I'm firm, even blunt, but the teeth typically don't come out unless it's blatant bigotry or disrespect. I take a deep breath before I comment.
@Helmic Clarification question!
Does your "That's how it should work, yeah" refer back to my saying that being a mod is a thankless volunteer position?
If so, I disagree with *just* the thankless part. I always make a point to thank the mods sometimes; I don't want them to feel unappreciated and get burnt out, you know?
Also, glad I went with that wording and not "chore," in retrospect "volunteer position" sounds nicer.
Also also, thank you for your comments.
This wallflower remembered they existed.
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