How do you make friends in a city you just moved to? moved to LA a few months back and I think I wrongly assumed friends would just materialize. But I legit haven't hung out with anyone for months save the one time I drove up to Northern California to see old friends. Has anyone experienced this?
@PoliticalVoyeur Go out and do things that you are into. Even by yourself. You will make friends by accident because you'll run into people with similar interests.
@PoliticalVoyeur I'm having this issue in DC. (Move from GA.)
Like, all my close friends in GA were other people's friends and I networked to them through friends of friends, but I don't really know anyone in DC outside of work folks?
And one of my coworkers throws regular parties that I should, but don't, attend. Just as a way to meet people.
I've been considering joining a book club or a D and D group or something? Or just spending time on meetup.com
But yeah, it's hard.
@PoliticalVoyeur "tinder, but for friendship"
@PoliticalVoyeur what @Owlbert said. Friendship through shared interests and values is an easy way to start, and will often lead to healthy, strong friendships. Go to meetups related to your interests. Hiking? Craft? Board games? Coding? Language exchange? Do you do a religion? (Church events?) Volunteering can also be fulfilling and friend-making, as can casual classes. Events like hackathons, tech nights (look on social media/web). A sporting club. Rotary / Lions?
@PoliticalVoyeur @carly_io Carly has her social game down cold folks!
@Owlbert @PoliticalVoyeur Ha! Not at all. I'm not super extroverty, I don't drink a lot and I find smalltalk excruciating. I want healthy relationships with a small group of people who share my interests somewhere. We have something to talk about, something to do together. My happy place is a mutual gushing/outrage session with a fellow human 😆
These are just ways I've find those people in the past.
@carly_io @PoliticalVoyeur With you 100% Carly! 😁
@PoliticalVoyeur I've moved my life a few times, and can be a bit hermity from time to time, so I know it can be very easy to not do this stuff. 😊And the clincher is that you need to make that effort to put yourself in front of people, do talking and all that. It can feel like work sometimes.
I think the trick (for me) is to do things you love, and you'll find other people who love them too. Things can flow from there. Good luck! You can do this 😊👍
@PoliticalVoyeur jesus YES! I lived in one city for two years and left with one friend (it was a long ass two years!). If you don't meet people thru work get roommates or take a class (in anything you think you'll like). It's hard work - you can do it!
@PoliticalVoyeur I would do Meetups or get involved in volunteering of some kind. Going to classes (dance, cooking, etc.) is another good, non-bar scene way to meet people.