I wish there was more room for nuance on the fediverse, but we like to sum things up and then posts are at odds, like:
"Some people are neurodivirgent and you shouldn't overreact if they say something a little weird or behave in a way you didn't expect"
"If you get a vibe from someone you should feel free to block them without justifying it, trust your instincts"
Both of these are good and they completely oppose one another
@Louisa I agree wholeheartedly with everything you say here, except the part where you attribute it to the fediverse. I think it's actually an aspect of the internet and/or of society as a whole -- just my €0.02 --
@datn I'm attributing it to the fediverse because I think it's specific to a short-form ideas platform that rewards you with attention if you can wrap your idea up in as small a package as possible— Twitter would be another example though
@Louisa that makes a lot of sense to me, yeah
put kindly, the prevailing vibe is "someone should do the work here, but not me."
soooo many folks here wants their specific deficits accommodated, and their traumas addressed gingerly.
and then they pivot and treat every other account like a fully self-actualized person acting with only transparent rationales, who is either a good or bad human based on whatever interaction you or your friend says they think they heard about once.
hmm sry i jumped up the cynicism like another level here.
@jackdaw_ruiz no, I think that's definitely part of it, another part is wanting to be validated, which we all want
If you're thinking "was I right to block that guy who gave me weird vibes?" the second example really makes you feel like you're being heard
If you are that guy and you know in your case that you only had good intentions, the first example is comforting
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